Tuesday, August 17, 2010
Proverbs 31:10-12 “Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.”
Everybody's looking for That Girl. Has anybody seen a virtuous woman? In today's society, many men complain that there are not enough good women available and that the ones who are available are only interested in money and material things. Hence, to many brothers, the virtuous woman is an illusion.
In fact-surprisingly enough -the most significant issue in the lives of many guys older than 30 is not challenges with their jobs, careers or even finances. It is not even problems with reaching their goals, obtaining their dreams or achieving their destiny in life. The biggest obstacles facing most men today involves bad decisions they have made regarding women.
These challenges range in severity and depth and involve a variety issues which include poor relationships with the mother of their children, custody battles, child support issues, alimony payments, recovery from divorce, broken heart, lack of communication, lack of trust, inability to be faithful in a relationship/marriage, lack of respect, lack of sex in marriage, lack of support, inability to be honest and open, failure of committment, and the list goes on to include other similar topics.
These items can altar the course of one’s life. Therefore it is important that you choose the right woman. So finding a virtuous woman is more than a casual adventure. The reason that many men make bad decisions when it comes to women is because they choose solely based on looks, how a females dresses, and other superficial qualities.
Fact is, women all ready look good. But with all of the enhancements available to embellish their looks, one must be sure you know what you are getting. Ladies today can uses everything from face lifts, to tummy tucks, breast implants, butt implants, weaves, wigs, make up, eye lashes, fake nails, and high heal shoes to get your attention. And that’s just to half of it. These things can cause a brother to look pass a woman’s true character and focus only on the exterior if one is not careful.
Choosing a woman simply based on looks without considering other notable traits can be a costly decision. One should know how she thinks, how she treats people and what kind of character she possesses. And try to observe how she acts around others including her family. In general, one should also know weather the young lady is honest, nice, and trust worthy. (By the way, make sure you also possess these qualities)
In conclusion, one must be patient; be wise; be smart and make the right choice to find a virtuous woman. Selecting a woman as your wife without knowing these things is like buying a car without taking a test drive, or buying a house without doing a walk through, or like buying a watch because its shinny. Therefore, one should never make rash decisions about selecting a wife because if you do - in the end, you are likely to have - regrets.